Sunday, April 25, 2010

Feeling Hopeful About 28

It is officially 10 years since I became a legal adult.

That's Birthday Cake on my face!
Get your mind out of the gutter... :P
On my 18th Birthday, I was so excited to have the right to vote...and to get my very first tattoo.  My friend and my boyfriend at the time went with me.  As I straddled the chair and the needle hit my skin, I couldn't believe the pain!

I tried my best to breath through it, and I kept thinking, "It's okay.  It's okay.  Pain is part of it.  It'll be AWESOME when it's over."

But, dude.  I couldn't stop the tears!  While the tears were partially from the pain, I was also extremely excited to be 18.  I thought about growing up, growing older, independence, and crossing this incredible American milestone.  I also thought about the fact that I was to be naturalized as a U.S. citizen in the next week.

I was excited to grow up.

Now looking back at the past 10 years, 18 was nothing.  And I'm sure that I'll be saying the same thing about 28 when I turn 38.  Everyone talks about how awesome it is to become an adult.  But no one tells you about all the trials and tribulations that are part of it.  Some things get really difficult.  You have to make a lot of choices on your own, and then live with it.

I've been saying, though, that I've been really excited about turning 28.  Perhaps because it is that 10 year mark from the beginning of "adulthood."  Perhaps it's because of 27 being such a difficult year.  But I'm definitely not scared of getting older.  I can't wait to see what this next year of life will bring my way!

For this post, I wanted to share with you all the things I've learned in the past 10 years while also sharing pictures from the past 2 days of birthday celebrations.  Let me preface this by saying that these are clearly just my own observations, and they are mainly lessons I've learned about myself.  You're more than welcome to disagree. :)
Drinks and Cupcake Wrappers
1.  We all carry some prejudices.  The problem occurs when people aren't willing to be open-minded about other opinions or at least learning about the other side a little bit.  I've always tried to learn as much as I can before forming an opinion, and even then I still leave more room for arguments.
Drag queens in mermaid outfits!!! LOVED it!
2.  If you take yourself too seriously, you deserve to be made fun of.  Period.
Sorry for the blurry picture...but you get the jist...I have an awesome hair-stache...
3.  Love is important.  But one shouldn't have to sacrifice themselves to get it.  Compromise is important.  But that's a personal judgment as well.
But I will never compromise on chocolate.
4.  I like rum.  I like tequila.  I like wine.  I like fruity beverages.  I don't often get hung over because I don't usually drink a ridiculous amount.  For a Pacific Islander/Asian, I can handle my alcohol fairly well.  That being said, splitting a bottle of tequila between 2 people is never a good idea.  Throwing up at a party just isn't fun. I cheated for this picture.  This was from October 2006. 
I was crying on the way home because I felt really bad for yacking at our friends house.
5.  Setting goals is a great idea.  But the world won't stop just because you need to accomplish something.  Be prepared for changes.
Singing "Heart of Glass" by Blondie.  I acquired 2 background dancers in the process.
6.  Just dance.  Even if you're a white guy.  You're having fun, and you're entertaining others.
Dancing at the Red Fez.  Belly dancers know how to have a good time.
7.  You get to decide how situations will play out.  If you go somewhere expecting a lame time, you will have a lame time.  If you go and make the situation fun, you will have fun.  Though, it doesn't hurt to have amazing people by your side.
I'm a little bummed I didn't get a whole group picture, but I was so happy to see all these folks and more!
8.  Being alone is a great experience.  We are all individuals in this ginormous universe.  While we get lucky and find people to share our time with, as humans are social animals, there's nothing like being secure in your oneness.
Enjoying the fruits of my cupcake labor.
9.  Life is too short to worry about your age!  It means diddly squat if you haven't learned from your mistakes, and regret just means you haven't learned a thing.  Everyone's experience is so different.  But what matters is what you take away from them.
10.  The Beatles said it best:  "In the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make."
Proof that 28 will be awesome.


  1. Happy Birthday darling! Those are some wonderful life lessons! 27 was the worst year for me too...I'm really banking on 28 to be fabulous and so far it has! ;)

  2. 27 was crap for me too! What is it about that damn number?
    You are sooo right about our ability to create our own experience. It's something that I've known intellectually for a while, but definitely a concept that I've had difficulty putting into practice. I'm working on it though ;)


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